Show Your Game Face

Show Us Your Game Face Meeting Jade G
Jade G. delivers her Icebreaker (10/26/2016)

Do you wear your heart on your sleeve? Or do you wear a poker face, keeping your hand close to your chest as to avoid revealing what it is you are going through?

This week’s theme, “Show Your Game Face.” forced members to contemplate how they interact with the world around them. The truth of it is, as Frank C. pointed out in his well-delivered inspiration, we do both depending on our situation — or comfort level.

Our default may be to show the game face to the world. The one that demonstrates our strength or that we have it all together.  A face we want strangers to see or the one we project in new or unknown situations.

We reign in our nervousness and put on our game face  to focus on a new role or perhaps an impromptu speech that promises to stretch outside of our comfort zone, such as the debate format of the Table Topics delivered by Weegee S.

However, I think Toastmasters is showing us the benefits of opening ourselves up to the group and encouraging us to wear our hearts on our sleeve. This was demonstrated in the meeting by one of our newest members Jade G., who stood up and delivered her Icebreaker at the meeting.

It shifts our game face from one of protection to openness.

Other highlights of the meeting:

The meeting itself was well crafted thanks to the man at the helm, Neil B. — who celebrated his 60th birthday with us at the lectern!

Patricia H. delivered a masterpiece speech evaluation for Jade that touched upon the heart of the speech — to be happy.

William B. demonstrated his quick impromptu speech skills with an extended evaluation of Table Topics — paying keen attention to detail and offering suggestions for all participants.

The role of Timer was handled by Judy L., who kept us on time but went with the flow as changes occurred throughout the meeting.

Our intrepid Quizmaster, Ben R. demonstrated his listening skills and even stumped the entire group once or twice!

Jokemaster was played by John G. and it was perfect for Halloween — involving the FBI and bodies in the backyard.

Sheila C. was the General Evaluator and she wrapped up the meeting with a nice bow!

Announcements:

Our VP of Education will start adding themes for the next year. If there is one you are particularly partial to or would like to see added, please contact Neil B.

 

 

 

Importance of the Icebreaker

Toastmasters Storytelling“I can talk for hours about my job or when conducting a presentation at work, but I can’t hold a personal one-on-one conversation for two minutes.”

Do you or have you felt that way? Many of us are great communicators when we are not part of the speech, presentation or story. However, your personal stories may be the best connection to your audience.

Stories constitute the single most powerful weapon in a leader’s arsenal.
– Dr. Howard Gardner, Harvard University

Talking about latest products, awards, achievements and advancements are impressive, but often they are cold hard facts. To connect with an audience, there needs to be a warm, soft story that talks to the heart of the audience.

According to an online article (ethos3.com), “When you tell a story during your presentation, you can potentially activate up to seven areas of your audience members’ brains, as compared to the two areas of the brain that you can awaken if you tell only facts and stats during your presentation.

The best stories to share are the personal ones. The ones based upon failures, fears, successes, learning lessons and struggles. Think makeover or transformation.

Icebreaker is a term which describes an activity that reduces tension and anxiety in a group while forging new bonds.

In Toastmasters, the Icebreaker is often seen as a way for new members to introduce themselves to the club. They are encouraged to talk about their life, job, hobbies, interests or how they found themselves at Toastmasters. It is presented to the new member as an “easy topic” for you are talking about something you know — yourself.

I, however, think the importance of the Icebreaker is more than an introduction to the club. It is an introduction on HOW to insert YOU into speeches. This is the most important baseline for all speeches, over hand gestures and vocal variety.

If you can get up there and speak from the heart, you win the hearts of your audience. Even if it is a business meeting on financial asset management.

What’s your thoughts on storytelling? How do you incorporate it into your speeches?

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Choices, Chances & Changes: The Morning Tide of Toastmasters

Three Cs of Life: Choices Chances and Change

This week’s Toastmasters Summer morning series had the perfect backdrop for the theme — speeches from the CC manuals.  One could hear the gentle lap of waves as three people took center stage in Sharon’s backyard to deliver their speech. The ocean waters repetitive, hypnotic beat was the perfect complimentary background noise to our speeches of choices, chances and changes.

“In the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take.”

I (Weegee S.) gave my second speech (but the third in the CC manual) about how CHANCE played a role in my life. After a series of misfortunes, I was given the chance to learn to call for a dragonboat. While I was filling in for a short time, the promotion taught me a valuable lesson in how to handle CHANGE and using my voice effectively to communicate with my support group.

“Destiny is all about the choices we make and the chances we take.”

Sharon K. eloquently delivered her Ice Breaker speech where she talked about the three CHOICES that brought her back to Gibsons, BC time and again. Her tale, told from her own backyard, was about the houses and the property we were sitting in with a filter that gave us a view into how it looked to her as a child. We saw how it changed since then and how it has changed her. She said she initially agreed with her parent’s choice to purchase the waterfront property because it had a tree swing, something that made her happy. It was that feeling that led her to make the two other choices to return to Gibsons — to stay.

“You will never change your life until you change something you do daily.” — John C. Maxwell, public speaker and leadership expert

One of the things each of us does daily without putting much thought into it is communicate with others. Conversation is a fine art that many of us overlook, neglect or have let our skills fall to the wayside. However, it is a necessary skill to take a chance encounter and change it into a lifelong friendship. Sheila C., in a speech from the Advanced Interpersonal Communications manual, showed identified techniques to use when conversing with strangers and the different levels of conversation (small talk, fact disclosure, viewpoints and opinions and personal feelings). She offered us a way to CHANGE how we interact with fellow Toastmasters, the grocery store clerk and even people in our lives who could use a promotion in how we classify them.

The morning meeting was topped off by a round of Table Topics, random questions picked out of an envelope for those willing to be put on the spot. It is no wonder that each participate picked the one question best suited for them. Lucky choice? By chance?

The overall theme here is that each of us have signed up for change. Change in how we communicate. Change in our confidence. Change in how we present ourselves professionally and in small talk scenarios.  Each of us have made a choice and taken a chance on each other in Toastmasters to make that change. A process that is one step closer with every speech, evaluation or Table Topic discussion.

We are changing. And it only gets better from here!

Contributed by Weegee S.

NOTE: Special thank you to Sharon K. for hosting the morning meeting and offering a fantastic location for our speeches.

Next meeting will be on August 26th, hosted by Katherine. Check TurboBase and your emails for details!