“I stood back, guided and filled in the gaps.”
Distinguished Toastmaster Frank Coldicott recently returned from a visit with his daughter in Australia. While he was there, father and daughter, both wood crafters, designed and constructed homemade Adroinnock chairs. While Frank’s daughter is still exploring her abilities, Frank said he was most content to stand back, guide and fill the gaps in her training.
It is a similiar role he has filled for the Morningstars Toastmasters club on the Sunshine Coast in Gibsons, British Columbia and many clubs across British Columbia, Canada.
Frank Coldicott is celebrating his 50th year as a member of Toastmasters. Frank has experienced half a century of speeches, Table Topics, contests, and meetings. He has fifty years of chartering clubs, mentoring new ones and taking on executive roles.
When I was asked to interview Frank for a possible 50th-anniversary blog, I jumped at the chance to meet with the man I consider a friend and mentor.
50 Years of Toastmasters
Coldicott’s journey started in 1967 when he was invited to join the Vernon Toastmasters Club. According to Frank, he joined to increase his social interactions. He was a new teacher in his hometown and living at home. If his car appeared at a person’s house or at a pub, his students knew about it. However, no one said anything when he was parked in front of a building on Toastmasters meeting night.
“Some people say that being a teacher made me a better Toastmaster. But the opposite is true. Toastmasters impacted my quality of teaching,” my friend and mentor confessed. “The pauses and vocal variety helped me to connect with students and teach them more creatively.”
The next club Coldicott joined was the Kamloops Toastmasters Club in the early 1970s. It was here that Frank witnessed one of the biggest changes within Toastmasters – the point in which the public speaking club became coed thanks to the woman’s liberation movement.
“Oh sure, our club encountered a bit of resistance. Some men felt that the club would lose the professional aspects or that ‘nothing was sacred,’” Frank explained. “After the initial shake-up, the dust settled into a really great club.”
In the 1980s, Frank helped charter and attempted to start a few new clubs in the area. Some gained ground while others floundered.
After he formally retired from teaching, Frank was approached to be the key note speaker for the graduation ceremony of one of the classes he taught. According to Frank, he spent long hours refining and practicing the speech.
“While I was delivering the speech I crafted, the boys I taught were talking. I tried everything in my Toastmasters delivery bag to capture their attention. I put in pauses, vocal variety and gestures. I could not connect with them.
“It wasn’t until much later, after several days of ruminating, that I understood the issue. I gave an adult speech. That one event taught me the importance of knowing and understanding your audience.”
Frank eventually settled in Richmond where he joined ASK Advanced Speakers Toastmasters Club of Greater Vancouver, where he became the Area Governor.
In the early 2000s, Frank and his wife Julie moved to the Sunshine Coast where he joined Morningstars Toastmasters Club and later helped mentor the newly formed Beachcombers Advanced Toastmasters Club.
Speeches and Painting More Similiar Than Many Think
“I’m better at Table Topics than written speeches,” Frank offered. “I’m way better when it comes from my emotional center rather than the rational thought. It’s how I paint.”
What some people don’t know about Frank is that he is an abstract painter – who is colour blind. He can read the colour of the tube of paint, but how it plays or blends with others is difficult. If he puts too much thought into it, it becomes overwhelming.
Franks says he paints in a flurry before he can start over analyzing or shifting into rational. He believes the end result feels better and looks better when it comes from his heart.
He mentioned that he has seen the curriculum for Toastmasters change significantly at least four times over the years.
“When I started out, there were two books. One was a basic training book, much like the Competent Communicator. It outlined the bare basics of the ten steps of speeches. There was one advanced book.”
He’s looking forward to the new Pathways and how it may open up the lines of communication via the digital world. Frank open admits that social media and blogs aren’t his strong points, but it is something he would like to learn. Always the student. Always the teacher.
Favourite Roles in Toastmasters
When questioned about his favourite role in Toastmasters, the humble man emerges. Frank talks about the days when he used to enjoy the center of the stage, taking on roles like chairing Toastmaster meetings or being the Master of Ceremonies for local events.
“The greatest joy for me, anymore, is watching others as they grow,” Frank said. He reminded me of a parent on Christmas Day who once enjoyed opening gifts and is now happy to give them to the next generation.
Franks says that he enjoys listening to others, watching them grow and offering his advice through evaluations.
Or standing back, guiding and filling the gaps.
I asked Frank if he mentors Toastmasters and he replied, “Oh, maybe one or two over the years.”
Like many Toastmasters, I think there’s a chance he doesn’t see how many lives he impacts. He may not realize how his evaluations and keen observations help layer the growth in skill and confidence of all the Toastmasters in his club.
Frank Coldicott is an asset to the Toastmasters community and especially to Morningstars Toastmasters Club 1248 where he continues to help fellow members shine.
Happy 50th Anniversary, Frank!
And thank you!
Submitted by Weegee S.
Labour Day weekend is the last hurrah for many as students prepare to head back to school.
For Morningstars, it is the beginning of many hurrahs as the 2017-2018 Toastmasters season kicks off!
The upcoming year looks to be an exciting one — fall contests, a 80s Halloween theme party and powerful speeches from our talented members.
Morningstars is an hour and fifteen minute investment into one’s personal development. From elevator pitches to small talk, the energetic club can take your personal goals to the next level.
Join us for our first meeting of the new year on September 6, 2017 at 7am at Harmony Hall in Gibsons.
You won’t regret it.
Don’t want to let go of summer quite yet? Here are a few snapshots from the summer meetings:
Submitted by Weegee S.
Submitted by Neil B.
What’s so great about a convention?
I don’t know if there is one word, one thing or one event that made it “great” . . . it was the entire experience. One that will linger long after the final ferry took me home.
My six days in a row of Toastmasters started two days before the convention with a spectacular sunrise and a ride on the 6:20 ferry from the Sunshine Coast to Horseshoe Bay. What a beautiful part of the world we call home.
I was greeted on the steps of the convention center by a Helping Hands Volunteer and from that moment on I was welcomed “in the club”.
I was a Helping Hands Volunteer and by working early I had the whole convention off. Great right? Well I watched how much fun and comradery there was going on and kind of wished I had worked more during the events.
For most of the convention goers the First Timers Reception is where the real convention started. Don’t imagine mingling and hors d’oeuvres, think 800 people hosted by Toastmaster CEO, Danial Rex working the crowd, Table Topics style. It was a great way to break the ice and learn about fellow Toastmasters.
The opening ceremonies were, for me, one of the best parts. I was surprised at how the powerful Flag Ceremony. 142 Toastmaster flags were carried in by members, many in traditional dress. It felt like you were a part of something really good and big. Toastmasters was bigger than my little part of the world and I felt like I was part of a bigger community.
Throughout the week there were endless workshops, Keynotes, and contest speakers. There were more than 100 competitors, but because three contests ran simultaneously, you could only see about one third of them. I watched 31 speech’s in one day, all better than any I had heard before.
And then the Finals. Wow. You had to be there to feel the impact.
The week wrapped up with the Business Meeting, an interesting part of the process. And then the big party. The Presidents Inauguration Celebrations. I can’t say how that went, I was Toastmastered out. B.C. Ferries, take me home.
Submitted by Sheila C.
I was so excited to learn that the 86th Annual Toastmasters International Convention would be in Vancouver, BC in 2017, and I looked forward to the event all year. By the time it actually rolled around, I admit I was feeling a little weary of Toastmasters. I’d had a big year already serving as Area Director, achieving President’s Distinguished Area, completing a High Performance Leadership Project that included co-sponsoring a new club, and completing the DTM award — all of which culminated at the end of June.
When I joined Toastmasters, I had a specific reason. I often felt like the little kid at the adult table. I felt awkward and out of place. I laughed at the wrong times. My contributions to the conversation was unrelated. I felt under education, out classed and . . . uncomfortable.
I joined Toastmasters to gain the confidence to not only sit at the adult table — but feel like I belonged there.
For some, it is nailing the number 10 speech from the Competant Communicator. For others, it is taking the stage at the World Championship of Pubic Speaking. And many are just looking to further their day to day communication skills for workplace advancement.
When I first joined Morningstars Toastmasters, the VP of Membership asked me why I was joining. I didn’t have lofty aspirations. I didn’t see myself taking part in contests or holding workshops.
My goal or Toastmaster “why” was a simple one — connect with people.
On Sept. 20, Morningstars Toastmasters Club will put the impromptu speaking skills of its members to the test with the Table Topics contest. To help you take your next Table Topics speech to the next level, contest or not, here are a couple of tips!
1) Own the Question
Whether it is in competition or during your regularly scheduled meeting, focus not on your thoughts but the question. Think, believe, that this question is YOUR QUESTION. The one specifically meant for you. This focuses your thoughts on what the speaker is saying . . . and not the panic-filled thoughts going through your head.
Doing something that your body does naturally gives you time to calm your nerves and think about what it is you want to say. Also, taking a moment to ground yourself helps to ease the tension in your body and mind.
3) Go With First Instinct
Often times, our minds sift through a stack of ideas, vetoing this one or that as not being the ideal one. Go with the gut. Take the first thing that pops into your mind and run with it. There was a reason it jumped up and said, “Pick me.”
4) Pick Your Premise
This is when you seize your idea and make your statement. Form your opinion and share it with others. “My favourite holiday is . . . ” This gives your mini speech the beginning foundation and something to build upon.
5) Add Structure
Insert a structure into your speech that will help bridge the gaps between thoughts. Whether it is pros vs cons or three main points, this will help to elaborate your premise.
My favorite is the “Six Honest Serving Men” from Kipling’s poem:
I keep six honest serving-men
(They taught me all I knew);
Their names are What and Why and When
And How and Where and Who.
I send them over land and sea,
I send them east and west;
But after they have worked for me,
I give them all a rest.
Answering the “What, Why, When, How, Where and Who” in my story help to trigger ideas of discussion that lead to a roughed out speech.
6) Share What You Know
Put a bit of you into each mini speech. Share your favourite quote, anecdote, view or experience. Pick something that helps to illustrate the topic and drive home your point.
7) Know When to Say When
Often times in Table Topics, we start off slow and then gather steam as our minds warm to the ideas running full speed through our heads. But knowing when to pull the brakes, summarize and take a seat helps to end your speech with punch.
Now is the time to put your Table Topics speaking to the test! Table Topics will beo ne of the fall contests held at Morningstars Toastmasters meeting on Wed., Sept.20 at 7am at Harmony Hall.
To sign-up to compete or to help with the contest, please contact our VP of Education, Neil Booth.
This Fall, Morningstars Toastmasters club will be holding a Tall Tall and Table Topics competition at Harmony Hall at 7 am on September 20, 2017, as part of the fall contests for Toastmasters.
Tall tales? What’s a tall tale contest? Why do we have them?
Glad you asked!
The Tall Tales contest was developed to help Toastmasters with one of the most important aspects of public speaking: storytelling.
Storytelling helps the speaker connect with the audience. By focusing on what makes a great story, how to enhance your story and ways to deliver a compelling story, the contest helps competitors take their public speaking skills to a new level.
In short, the contest is a way for you to further presentation and speech development skills by creating a speech with exaggerated details.
While the story development is important, it is the delivery that makes up the majority of the judging points (55%). This includes vocal variety, body gestures, pausing and facial expressions.
A couple of rules and regulations you should know before entering the Tall Tales competition this fall:
- 3 – 5 minutes in length (disqualification occurs at less than 2:30 or over 5:30)
- Content is selected and written by the participant
- Subject must contain exaggerated elements, hyperbole
- Speech must have a theme or plot (no one liners or monologue)
For complete details on the contest, please consult the 2017 – 2018 Rulebook by clicking here.
Interested in participating in the Tall Tale Contest on Sept. 20? Let our VP of Education (Neil B.) know. Want to chair the contest? Also, let Neil B. know about your interest!
All public speakers struggle at one time or another with “fillers.” The “ums” and “ahs” pop up unexpectedly in our tales, stories, and demonstrations.
The most common advice speakers in training receive are to pause – let the words come to you mentally without reaching for fillers. But what if the cure was the opposite?
In “Do You Talk Funny?: 7 Comedy Habits to Become a Better (and Funnier) Public Speaker“, author David Nihill offers a suggestion for how to erase the “ah,” “eh,” and “buts” in your next speech. His suggestion: speak up.
“By speaking as little as 20 percent louder than normal, you will reduce the number of filler words you tend to use.” According to Nihill, it is harder to say the “ehs” and “ahs” at a pumped up volume.
While it may feel strange at first, but the higher-than-normal voice will seem normal to your audience. It may even enhance your audience’s ability to hear and understand you.
Next time you take center stage at work or in a Toastmaster’s meeting, pump up the volume and see how many filler words pop into your presentation.
Let us know if it works for you!
“What’s the best public speaking advice you have to offer?”
One of the District 96 Toastmasters I follow on Facebook posted the above question. I didn’t have to think long before the answer popped into my mind.
I’m going to share my secret public speaking sauce with you; the ritual that plays out in my mind before I take the stage to deliver a speech at our Toastmasters club. Ready for it?
I call my mother.
No, not really, but in my mind as part of a mental ritual to calm my nerves, focus my thoughts and connect with my awaiting audience.
Here’s the ritual in full:
1) When the chair calls upon the evaluator to share my speech objectives, I mentally envision myself dialing my mother’s cell phone digits.
2) The chair then reads my introduction, I imagine the phone ringing in my ear, waiting to connect me to my mother.
3) “Please welcome, Weegee Sachtjen.” As the chair calls my name and I walk on the stage, I can hear my mother’s voice, “Well, hello!” She has caller ID, and I can hear the surprise and excitement of the unexpected call from her eldest daughter in her voice.
4) During those few seconds that I take a deep breath and make my initial eye contact with the crowd, I can hear myself say, “Mom, so glad you answered, have I got a story for you!”
5) And I start my speech.
My husband inspired this simple ritual. He heard a practice version of a speech that I wasn’t “feeling.” The speech ticked off the “must haves,” such as gestures and vocal variety. However, it lacked my usual “rompish” touch.
“Tell it like you would tell your mom.”
The stories I tell my mom are nothing short of Tall Tales taken to the nth degree. My family has a flair for the dramatic and embellishments. However, it is also how I connect. It shows my vulnerable and authentic self.
In short, my mom hears all the tabloid stories of my life.
Why this is my best public speaking advice:
1) Speaking Rituals Help Calm Speaking Nerves
Creating a ritual can help ease you over the anxiety threshold that builds up as we prepare to take the stage. A ritual is the shortcut speakers use to fast track their ability to shift into speaker mode. It is a series of thoughts, motions and breathing techniques that help us transition into our speaker stance and confidence. Many speakers refer to “turning on” or “flipping a switch.”
2) A Room Full of Friends Beats A Room Full of Naked People
“Imagine the audience is naked.” Who wants to think of colleagues, coworkers, and clients naked? What if you felt like you were sharing a story, idea or thoughts with your mom, siblings, best friend or partner? It’s a bit more calming and a lot less awkward the next day.
3) We Are Most Vulnerable When We Feel Safe
We share our hearts, struggles, challenges, and triumphs with people who make us feel safe and connected. Imagining that you are talking to best friends or your mom allows your nerves to make the jump that the audience is safe and connected.
4) They Want to Hear Your Story and See You Succeed
Who are your cheerleaders? The ones who want to see you succeed? Who can you say anything too? Your audience. Your audience is on your side. Thinking of them as someone close to you reminds you of this important fact. Yes, it’s a fact.
Maybe calling your mom doesn’t work for you. Experiment with your speaking ritual. Find your own shortcut.
Now, if you will excuse me, I have a phone call to finish.
Submitted by Weegee Sachtjen